Strap-ons are every couple’s favourite. Although they’re the most versatile sex toy in the business, they’re often overlooked due to misconceptions that they’re only for female couples of the same sex or for pegging your partner.
However, one of the wonderful things about strap-ons is that they can be worn by anyone. Strap-ons work, even if you have a penis; just as a strap-on can be used in place of a penis. The strap-on can be used to penetrate either gender, to subvert or play the role of a particular gender. If you are having trouble with erectile function or orgasmic challenges, you can use one to overcome them. Strap-ons can be used to perform vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex, manual sex, and masturbation.
Even though pegging can be incredibly orgasmic, it isn’t for everyone. So don’t worry if you don’t want to wear a strap or take it anally. You can get pleasure in a variety of ways! Here’s a checklist for buying and using your first strap-on harness.
Shop for harness-compatible toys
Dildos and strap-on dildos are two different things. Dildos come in many forms, such as anal plugs, vaginal penetrators, vibrating dildos, etc. Strap-on dildos can be attached to harnesses or briefs to make them wearable.
A strap-on harness or brief usually has an O-ring, a flexible rubber circle through which the dildo is slid. As such, all dildos that can be attached to a strap by an O-ring are strap-on compatible.
There are, however, some dildos that cannot be secured by O-rings. Most sex toy shops carry strap-on dildos, so it is easy to find options that are harness compatible. As an alternative, look for the dildos with wide bases or balls; the wide base will make the toy more likely to stay in place when worn.
However, O-rings cannot be fitted to every need. Dildos sometimes need to be larger in order to accommodate girthier hips. A smaller one can be accommodated by a slimmer one. You need to find a dildo that is compatible with your harness, not just one that’s harness-compatible. You should make sure the diameter of your O-ring and dildo is the same. Your harness should fit like a shoe!
Choose the right size and shape for you.
Dildos are suited to different types of play. Beginner anal toys, for example, tend to be thinner than beginner vaginal toys. Advanced players prefer larger, girthier toys (both for vaginal and anal penetration).
It’s always good to start small with a new sex toy so the partner is comfortable with the sensation as they get used to it. A second point to keep in mind is that smaller dildos are easier to control hands-free.
In terms of shape, it is best to start off with a simpler, more fluid look. Non-realistic dildos are generally more comfortable and easier to navigate than realistic ones. Even though this is a suggestion and not a definitive rule.
A lot depends on the receiver’s preferences for shape and length. Occasionally, receivers want the dildo penetration to be quite thin and small. Other people want to be bigger, thicker, or longer. By discussing what interests you and what interests your partner, you will find it much easier to figure out what sizes and shapes you should be shopping for.
The material is also important.
Aside from size and shape, there are other factors to consider. It is also worth considering the strap-on’s material since it affects both the wearer and the receiver.
If you are new to strap-ons, we recommend starting with a silicone strap. First-timers will also benefit from dildos with some flexibility, yet they should not be too soft.
A strap-on should be firm enough to penetrate, but not so hard that it becomes uncomfortable. Soft but sturdy silicone is the best option for this reason. As well as being safe, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean, the material needs to be functional as well.
In any case, silicone toys should not be mixed with silicone lubes. Silicone-based lube actually erodes silicone, and this is not the most enjoyable experience. Choose a water-based or oil-based option as opposed to lube if you intend to use it (and it is an excellent idea if you are going to explore penetrative anal play).
Choose a harness that feels comfortable to you.
We’ve looked at the strap-on dildo basics, and now it’s time to see how it ties into the harness, the other half of strap-on sex.
For more of your favourite sex toys, have a look at Wicked Sex Toys’ strap-on harness section. You’ll notice underwears and leather belts on display. These are called harnesses.
But there are other ways to do it besides using leather and straps. Harnesses can also be made from cloth and shaped like briefs or panties, and they are just as good as leather options.
As opposed to physical underwear or briefs, which are typically sized like traditional clothing (small, medium, large), leather harnesses are usually one-size-fits-all.
However, some leather harnesses have adjustable straps to fit almost any size, however. So you may also want to visit your favourite store, like Wicked Sex Toys, in-person to try some on and see what you like.
The harness you choose should fit the dildo you are interested in. If it doesn’t, you might want to consider another harness. Otherwise, you’ll need either a new dildo or an entirely new harness.
We recommend ordering a variety pack to avoid possible mismatches. They generally consist of harnesses with adjustable O-rings, as well as dildos of various sizes. You can try out different toys while wearing the same harness, knowing it will fit perfectly every time.
Before you use your strap-on, familiarise yourself with it.
You should familiarise yourself with your strap-on and matching harness before using it with a partner.
As the receiver, you will have a better understanding of how the dildo feels and can tell your partner how it feels. Get to know how the strap-on feels on your body if you’re planning on wearing it. It’s best to approach it as an extension of yourself (literally).
Take things slowly when using your strap-on and make sure to communicate with your partner. If you are receiving, keep in mind that your partner cannot feel the dildo, so you will have to tell them what feels good!
Don’t forget all the other items you need to keep your strap-on in great shape
You have made it. What you need to do now is relax and enjoy your newly acquired strap-on, and keep it in good shape with enough maintenance.
Ideally, you should clean your toys every time you use them. With warm water and soap, most toys can be cleaned easily and safely. If you want to go a step further, you can purchase a sex toy cleaner.
Although it may seem tedious to clean up after a game of sex, remember that it will not only keep your toys hygienic, but it will also prolong their life.
It’s always good to apply lube too. You should use lube when trying to penetrate an anal area.
A little lubricant can benefit all kinds of play. Don’t forget to check the compatibility of the lube you plan on using with your toy. (Remember, silicone toys and silicone-based lube do not mix well.).
What Are Some of the Best Strap-ons For Beginners?
Our picks for strap-on harnesses in this guide are based on their quality, safety, comfort, and versatility. In addition to being used for sex between females as well as pegging, these devices can be attached to most dildos and are comfortable to wear.
Beginners can use these harnesses without worry, but advanced users will appreciate how durable they are. We guarantee that you will also enjoy them as our shoppers have for years.
The Bend Over Beginner Kit
Bend Over Beginner Kit provides everything you need to get started right away, eliminating the need to figure out what size dildos and O-rings to purchase. In this kit, you’ll find Tantus Silk dildos, some of our favourites for pegging.
The harness itself is made of good quality nylon and velvet. Bend Over Beginner Kit can be used to determine what kind of harness and dildo you like before investing in more expensive options.
- The kit includes a velvet and nylon harness, two silicone Silk dildos, an O-ring, and a bullet vibrator – everything you need to get started right away.
- There is a pocket on the harness that can hold a vibrator over the chest
- A good value considering how much equipment it comes with
- For hip size up to 50″
The Terra Firma
Terra Firma Harnesses are known for their very secure fit and are very fashionable. As a major selling point, the waist and leg straps connect directly to the O-ring, giving you the comfort and security of a secure harness and dildo regardless of your movements.
Suitable for dildos with scrotums or irregular shapes as well because of the leather backing and the unique strap system. If you plan on having strap-on sex that requires a lot of energy, then this harness is the one to use.
- Dildo harness with the best fit for scrotums or unusual shapes
- Dildo fits perfectly and provides an extremely stable platform
- Attached directly to the O-ring by a jockstrap-style leg strap and belt strap
- Comes with three O-rings
- Excellent quality leather
- Fits up to 50″
The RodeoH
RodeoH Harness is made of heavy-duty nylon with a wide fit; it’s easy to slip on and off like a pair of pants.
The cotton material is comfortable enough to wear all day, easy to clean, and will not wear out over time. In addition, you can wear the harness discreetly under your clothes. It is also an affordable product. RodeoH is the most user-friendly harness in general.
- It can be worn like underwear without fasteners or straps
- Cotton material makes it easy to wear under clothes discreetly
- Boxer-style also available
- Machine washable
- Fits up to 55” hips
The Jaguar Harness
Jaguar Harnesses are widely considered to be among the sexiest harnesses available today. This leather product is extremely comfortable thanks to its smooth and shiny texture. Wearing the Jaguar will make you look and feel great.
This strap-on is excellent for both beginners and those who’ve been strapped on for a long time.
- The leather is soft, high-quality and very sexy
- The jockstrap style enhances the stability of the dildo
- A wide variety of dildos can be equipped with interchangeable O-rings
- It’s easier to use with buckles than with most harnesses
- Lifetime guarantee
- Up to 56″ hips
The SpareParts Joque
As far as comfort goes, the SpareParts Joque Harness ranks among the best. The lightweight fabric and Velcro belt of this harness ensure that it will feel like a second skin.
Soft mesh layers are used to create this harness. These layers wick away moisture, so you can wear it all day long underneath your clothes without feeling hot or sweaty.
In addition to being extremely easy to slip on and off, the Velcro belt makes this harness a very convenient way to strap on. The Joque can be worn just like pants.
Its ease of use, combined with its strong performance, make the Joque so suitable for beginners. Joque delivers impressive dildo stability and control to the point where you’ll feel like you’re physically attached to the dildo, due to the ultra-secure fit provided by the Velcro belt and elastic O-ring.
Furthermore, the Joque includes a vibration pocket that will stimulate its wearer. The Joque ‘s comfort and outstanding design sets it apart from other strap-on harnesses.
- Comfy and extremely convenient
- Dildos up to 2″ in diameter fit into elastic O-ring
- Machine washable
Popular strap-on harness styles
Remember, there is no one right choice when it comes to materials – the best option is the one you feel suits your needs and your preferences.
No matter how perfect your harness is for you and your partner, it may still feel uncomfortable if your material choice is not matched with the right style.
Material and style are subjective elements that should be determined based on individual preferences.
If you’re unsure about what style of strap-on harness might be most appropriate for you, we can always help you out.
There is almost no limit when it comes to harnessing customization. Several sex toy manufacturers today offer the option of creating a customized, tailored harness based on your specific measurements and preferences.
The harness of your dreams is out there somewhere – there’s no reason to compromise!
Ready to strap-on for the ultimate orgasmic pleasure?
It might not yet be on every sexual repertoire, but pegging is undeniably an intriguing option. With the changing landscape, many toy enthusiasts have been contemplating buying strap-on dildos for the first time.
There is nothing better than experiencing sexual experimentation. No matter what your sexual preference is, you can try strap-on dildos for any part of your body that gives you great sensation, be it anal or vaginal.
It can be overwhelming to shop for strap-ons for the first time. In the meantime, you’ve already taken an important step: learning more about strap-on dildos. We at Wicked Sex Toys are dedicated to bringing style to toy lovers and only sell products that we love as much as you do.
