If you feel like exploring your anal area, that’s fine.
You’ll have a good time. It’s a pleasurable experience. Why not give it a try?
However, if you do feel like it, just be careful – to avoid becoming one of those who have to go to the hospital after an object gets caught in their anal canal.
When it comes to anal play, only use toys designed specifically for it (no household gadgets nor veggies), lube up before beginning, and take it slowly throughout.
Ultimately, there are no right or wrong ways to approach it. What works for you is what works for you. As long as you don’t do it the wrong way. At least one rule is certain: anal toys without flared bases are never okay. Speak to any sex toys expert or doctor, and they will agree.
You can engage in anal play regardless of your gender or sexual orientation and it can take the following forms:
– Rimming means putting fingers (or a tongue) around or inside the buttocks
– Inserting a dildo or other sex toy into someone’s buttocks
– Stuffing someone’s butt with a penis
Do you think it’s safe?
Although anal sex has become increasingly popular, it is still a somewhat taboo subject. Understanding the risks, rewards, and proper strategy of this type of sex is important as more couples indulge in it.
Anal sex might seem to be no more than anal penetration with a penis, but in fact, there is much more to it. The tongue or fingers can also be used for anal sex. Secondly, a variety of sex toys are used, such as vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs.
Anal sex is generally not harmful. In comparison with some other types of sexual activity, it takes more planning, preparation, and communication. While safety during sex is key, having fun during sex is just as important.
Why do sex toys get stuffed inside the bum?
Anus muscles clench. It’s important to make sure that your poop moves along correctly and nothing unexpected falls out.
The body does this as a form of defence, and it’s usually a healthy reaction.
This means, however, that if you place an object in the bum that shouldn’t be in there, your body’s anal mechanisms will tighten, pulling in the object, squeezing beneath it, and preventing your ability to reach in and get the object out.
Before you explore anal sex, you should know the following:
1. Find a toy that has a flared bottom
A regular dildo and vibrator intended for use in the vaginal area tend to be straight and slender, which can lead to them being stuck easily inside the body when they’re used anally.
It’s for this reason that you should always use toys made specifically for anal play.
It is important to purchase anal toys that are designed for anal use, with flared bases that have a diameter of six and a half centimetres or more. Essentially, they serve as ‘stoppers’ that keep the toy from getting caught inside the body.
The rectum doesn’t just expel a plug when it becomes stuck: it has a vacuum-like pressure that pushes it in a reverse direction, and it’s not connected to the vaginal canal, but goes straight into the colon.
2. Choose nonporous materials that are safe for the body
It’s a good idea to choose nonporous toys, such as silicone, stainless steel, or glass, because they are easier to clean.
Wash the toy with soap and water; if necessary, boil it, provided that it does not contain a motor.
3. Apply plenty of lubricants
Anal lubes come in a variety of varieties (usually with a cooling, numbing effect), but any water-based product will do. Don’t be afraid of using a lot.
Make sure that if you’re using a silicone toy, you use a non-silicone lube, so that you won’t damage the toy in the long run.
Contrary to the vagina, the butt is unable to keep itself lubricated. Saliva is too thin to serve as a lubricant.
4. Talk to your partner before trying out anal play
Bringing your partner into anal play will require some discussion. Unexpected anals are not okay. Painful and unproductive, it simply won’t work. You’ll have a hard time getting anything done if you’re not relaxed.
To ensure a safe and fulfilling anal play, there are some basic rules to adhere to: don’t force it, take it slowly, and stop when it hurts.
If you would like to try something new with your partner, be sure to ask them. Discuss what you plan to do with them. As you go through it, keep checking to see if you’re both having fun
Additionally, you will probably want some advance notice to ensure that you are clean and comfortable before the event. Take a dump in the toilet, then gently rub your body inside and out to make sure nothing is left behind.
5. Build your capacity gradually
Whenever you inject anal fun into your sex life, you must take things slowly and make sure you are in tune with both yourself and your partner.
Anal play is not supposed to be painful, and if it does become painful, it is the body’s way of telling you to back off or stop.
Starting small, with a clean finger or a narrow anal sex toy is the best approach. When you’ve become comfortable with the smaller sizes, gradually move on to larger ones.
That build-up has to happen. You can’t just go right into it with the larger anal sex toys. There is a high possibility of tearing the anus due to its sensitivity.
6. Insert a pointed-tipped toy, at an angle, into the anus
Anal play is easier for beginners if they choose a butt plug with pointed tips. An easier insertion is possible with the tapered end. Plugs should be inserted at an angle rather than by shoving them perpendicularly, specifically at a 90-degree angle.
7. Enjoy yourself and relax
Taking the time to relax and enjoy your anal play is the key to success. When you’re tense, the experience isn’t going to be pleasant.
It’s important to remember that sex should be fun.
If you don’t like anal play, don’t do it. However, if the idea intrigues you then go for it, learn more about it, and put it into practice safely. It can be awesome!
Take a deep breath, play with a vibration toy, and don’t leave out non-anal stimulation.
Anal toys that vibrate are useful for relaxing sphincter muscles and creating greater comfort. Relaxing the body is also possible when you concentrate on your breathing and stimulate your sexual organs in other parts of the body. Don’t forget your foreplay during anal play – and explore other parts of your body as well. When you are turned on, the experience will be more enjoyable.
8. Hygiene is a must
As you switch from one anus to the other, wash your hands, and put a fresh condom on (either on the penis or the toy). The importance of hygiene cannot be overstated!
Anal play can also result in sexually transmitted diseases, like herpes, chlamydia and gonorrhoea, even if penetration with the penis does not happen. Use a condom to protect yourself when sharing toys.
The bottom line
It is intended that every person involved in a sexual relationship has a great time. Your dedication to your safety demonstrates your commitment to your partner.