Strap-on dildos bring to mind images of lesbian porn to most of us. In the clip, the actress wears a harness and is enjoying her pretend penis of penetrating the young lady. Watching this is enticing! Regardless of whether they are part of porn culture, lesbians enjoy strap-on sex play.
The act of strapping on is enjoyable for all. Whatever your orientation is, strap-ons will make sex a lot more fun. No matter who you are, you can use strap-ons, regardless of whether you’re queer, straight, non-binary, or any other combination. These devices can be used for vaginal sex, as well as anal play, blows and hand jobs, including masturbation.
As well as enhancing intimacy, strap-ons enable a certain amount of kink. Your bedroom play is spiced up with strap-ons, and you learn about each other as well.
Strap-on sex intrigues you, but you might also be nervous about it; not because it would be bad or harmful, but because you cannot figure out how to use one. The experience of sexual stimulation with toys is often less straightforward than with the body as a whole, and a flexible appendage can be awkward when you’re not accustomed to having one.
It is completely normal to go through a period of adjustment when using a strap-on dildo. You can soon become an expert if you practice, communicate, and use the right equipment. Here is your beginner’s guide for getting comfortable with strap-on sex and improving your strap game.
The Strap-on Dildo: what is it?
Strap-ons are sex toys with a harness and a dildo that are attached to them. You can wear the harness around your waist or hips.
Women can have “fake penises” right in the place where they belong. Other than tongues and fingers, they use them in lots of different ways.
Additionally, such toys provide men with a second penis, one that perhaps is firmer and cooperative than the original one. One that also won’t cum easily.
Strap-on dildos in a variety of styles
A strap-on is intended to simulate the feeling and look of a penis. There are two key components of a strap-on setup: a harness and a dildo. There is a flared base on the dildo, and the harness consists of an O-ring through which the dildo is threaded. The dildo is secured to the wearer’s pelvis with the flared base and the O-ring.
There are three basic types of harnesses:
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Jockstrap
The design resembles a traditional jockstrap. In addition to its waist straps, it features straps over both butt cheeks.
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Thong
As the name suggests, this style resembles a thong, with a strap also going between the legs and between the butts.
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In underwear style
The version is typically modelled after a pair of boxers or underwear. They can be worn all day long or when you have sex.
There are literally countless sizes, shapes, materials, and colours of Dildos. Some come with realistic textures, while others have spiral textured or glass-like appearances!
Strap-on Dildo: What are the steps to use it?
Make sure you choose a strap-on dildo that fits appropriately
Be sure you have a few things in order before you start strap-on sex. Your priority should be getting the proper equipment. It is important to choose the right strap-on for your riding experience, both from a comfort perspective and how easy it is to operate.
If you want to choose the right dildo for your needs and the needs of your partner, you should consider the size and type of dildo. It is important to find out what your partner prefers if you are not the one getting penetrated. Some people favour large dildos, while others prefer one-of-a-kind dildos. Find out what they like.
Harnesses can be made from nylon, leather or cotton that are worn around the waist and legs utilizing adjustable straps, or they can be made from cotton underwear that has a hole to place the dildo through. Be aware of these differences as you compare products. It’s also a good idea to experiment with various models. You are also setting yourself up for success by doing that.
Become accustomed to the strap-on dildo
Wearing your strap-on for the first time need not occur during a sexual encounter. Get familiar with wearing a harness by allowing yourself time to adjust. The first few days are going to be weird.
You can have your harness on while doing nonsexual activities like doing the dishes or watching television. By the time you are comfortable using it on your own, you will be able to do so with a partner.
Connecting with your strap will make your sex better once you reach it.
Check out clips of strap-on users
That’s right, just as in porn. I believe that seeing a strap-on in action is exceptionally useful if you have never used one (you may have already used one). The whole process will become clearer as you learn little tricks, observe how people express themselves, and generally gain a better understanding of it. It is for this reason that amateur porn is a preferred choice!
It is much more likely that real sexual partners will be able to gain useful insights from their interactions than actors whose techniques appear effective but aren’t a pleasure to use.
Become proficient at thrusting
The act of thrusting can be challenging if you have never done it before. The problem is that there is no one-size-fits-all technique to make this easier. All it takes is practice.
On your own, you can certainly thrust on your bed or pillow, but it’s hard to put into words what it’s like when you’re with someone. What is important is to make sure you have a “secure setup.” This means making sure your strap-on fits right and that your dildo does not wobble inside your O ring.
You need to roll your hips and grind it out!
You’ll typically have more control with straps that are thicker, bigger, and adjustable. In addition to a suitable O-ring, you also need a firmly anchored dildo.
Begin slowly
After you’ve become familiar with your gear, you’ll likely want to use it with your partner. Don’t rush into things. Start slowly. Allowing your partner to ease up to the toy is similarly important. Put your strap-on dildo on and enjoy making out with your partner. Allow them to touch the dildo the way they would a handjob. Play with the toy like it’s a real penis and includes it in your kinky activities.
There’s something funny about penises. It’s no surprise that having an artificial penis on your body makes you chuckle. In that case, get on board with it. Sex that is funny and filled with laughter can be the best kind.
Control it with your hands
Although strap-ons allow for intimate, hands-free activities, they do not guarantee the toys will act in a certain way.
Using a strap can be harder for the top to manipulate than a real cock, so if you can’t get the right hit, you can adjust with your hands.
Don’t forget to lube up your strap-on dildo
For penetration, use lots of lubricants when using your strap-on dildo. So you can push inside without hurting your partner. Don’t forget to let your partner know if they need more lubricant.
Always go for Lube. Make sure your dildo is compatible with it. Since silicone toys degrade on contact with silicone lube, and oils can harm latex condoms, water-based lube is likely to be the best option.
Using a condom makes cleaning easier. Condoms are also lubricated, so you won’t have to apply so much lube, and you can clean them more easily afterwards.
Positions that are strap-friendly
When it comes to sex positions, the first few times you use a strap-on aren’t the best time to go overly crazy. Start with positions you feel comfortable with, and leave room for your hands to adjust the strap-on as needed, such as sitting on all fours, a missionary position, or standing beside your partner while he/she lies on the edge of the bed.
For those who find it difficult to manoeuvre their strap, your partner can always ride you. A little experimenting is always necessary to discover what feels natural and what gives you the best results.
Anal especially should start on all fours. Generally, this is the most common pegging position. Get down on your hands and knees and allow your partner to enter you from behind while you lie on your bed, sofa, or anywhere else you like. Laying on your stomach is another comfortable pegging position.
Let go of your image worries
It certainly isn’t easy to wear an on-body harness, but you’re not the only one who gets distracted by its appearance. It’s important to understand that sometimes the moves and positions that feel good aren’t the most scenics, so you need to be okay with looking “unattractive”. You might find, in the long-term, that focusing on function over aesthetics may make you feel more confident than buying a harness based merely on looks.
Don’t limit yourself to penetration
There are many erotic ways to use strap-ons, despite penetration being one of their primary draws. A girl’s partner can perform a ‘blow job’ on her. Initially, it may look ridiculous, but it’s going to be awesome. You will find all kinds of exciting ways to play with your strap-on once you start thinking of ‘your own kind of cock.’
When experimenting, be sure to use proper hygiene procedures. It is most important to wash the dildo when you switch holes, for instance from anus to mouth, or to change condoms if you need to change holes.
Talk to each other
See how your partner feels. It is something you should do anyway, but it is particularly helpful when working with a new toy. Particularly one you don’t necessarily have full control over.
Find out what your partner thinks about the depth and angles. Discuss what feels good and what does not with any sexual activity. Find out how your partner would like it. How deep, how fast, or how slow do they want it? Be attentive to their words. Do not angle your dildo backwards, but upwards. But more than that, let them have the final say on where they would like to go with it.
Embrace your silly side
In the case of strap-ons, this principle is especially helpful to bear in mind. You have to go with the inherent humour of the situation and embrace it. The first time we try something, we might feel foolish and uncomfortable, but we quickly get over it.
You don’t need to worry if you don’t like straps on that particular session or ever. Don’t forget that this is just an addition, and if things don’t work out, you’ve still got your hands and mouth.
Aftercare is important
Cleaning your gear immediately is crucial. Use the best method recommended by the manufacturer. Condoms are an effective means of preventing infections such as STDs. Furthermore, using a condom with it can make cleaning easier.
