Sex is an important aspect of human existence and one that deserves to be valued.
When you want to jazz up your sexual life, the inclusion of sex toys is something to take into account.
The idea, to say the least, can be daunting. Perhaps you’re worried about upsetting your partner, and that they’re not willing to do it, or you assume that the sex toy you would like to try is a taboo.
You might also feel hesitant about voicing your sexual desires, or simply ashamed about developing a pleasure that’s somewhat out of the typical bedroom style.
No matter the cause, you don’t need to stress too much about it!
Couples who communicate about their sex lives show higher levels of gratification and introducing toys to their sexual relationship will create a higher degree of emotional trust.
So if you’re determined to bring a sex toy to your bedroom, this is how you can make things a bit less awkward while at the same time hitting incredible orgasmic levels with your partner:
#1 Choose the right time
While there is no definite length of time you are required to have slept with your partner before you introduce a sex toy, and while there is no specified number of times you have to have sex with them before you incorporate toys, bringing it up within the first few dates is a little too early.
We highly recommend that you wait until you have had a couple of sexual encounters together and already build up a strong degree of trust and connectivity both in and out of the bedroom.
Pay more attention to what you already enjoy in your sex sessions and encourage your partner on your belief that doing so will add more pleasure and help both of you reach a different sense of intimacy.
#2 Be honest
You have to know, first of all, that what you are proposing is completely normal and it’s not a bad thing.
Once you propose anything new, start with the positive, try making an offer or pose a question, and afterward present your request.
When you portray your desires through requests as compared to criticisms or complaints, your partner would be much more accommodating.
Be very clear! Stop playing around, avoid statements with “possibly” or “maybe,” since it allows so much ground for your partner to question the effectiveness of sex toys.
Have a transparent, honest dialog about why sex toy turns you on. Both of you need to try to broaden your sexual experience together.
#3 Choose the most appropriate sex toy
First of all, consider the styles of sex you always enjoy. Your first toy option should operate and blend well with your chosen sex style, whether you prefer rubbing, hand sex, penetrative sex, or oral sex.
There are several various styles and groups of sex toys commercially available: butt plugs, dildos, strap-ons, vibrators, clit toys, cock rings, etc.
So, you need to be specific about that. Discuss what turns you on and what you’re going to try. You want the sex toy to be part of the enjoyment, not the sole focus of the encounter.
#4 Shop for sex toys together
Online as well as in-store shopping are indeed perfect options. It would be a nice experience for both of you to interact and explore items that you might enjoy.
The advantage of going to a proper sex toy store is that staff are qualified to answer any queries you may have about a specific product, which would make finding the perfect one easier for you.
It is also much better to physically check the texture, substance, and vibratory patterns by inspecting the tester toys.
Your reluctant partner may be pleased in seeing that there are so many choices for sex toys, and also to validate that sex toy shops are not at all scary.
The beauty of online shopping is that you can do it straight from home, making it easy for you to openly talk about what you would like to try.
This could make it more convenient and comfortable for people who are hesitant or more reluctant.