I’m sure the idea of sex toys might startle some people, but they can be incredibly useful for couples.
Some people believe that there are no benefits to using a toy in bed with their partner, and I think this is because most don’t understand how these devices work or what it takes to use one well. The right device could make you more confident as a lover by improving your skillset immensely!
Even if you’re super familiar with how to use sex toys while masturbating, whipping out a toy in the bedroom may feel like an entirely different story. But don’t worry: it’s not impossible! It might take some time and experimentation before things really click into place.
There’s not much difference between using your toy solo or with someone else in many ways and it turns out that most of what you masturbate on can also be used during partner play!
The best thing about sex toys is that they open up a lot of possibilities. If you have someone to use them with, then it can be even better because there are partner-specific techniques and accessories available for both people!
A session with a sex toy is only as good as your imagination. Here is all the information you need to know, from picking out the right gear to getting down and dirty!
Do you know why we use sex toys?
Consider this: Sex toys don’t judge. They can be used to explore your own body and desires, or someone else’s – they’re a safe space for experimentation with no judgment whatsoever.
But if you’re on the fence, there are a few solid benefits to using sex toys worth mentioning. You might even be surprised at how great they can make your life!
I don’t know about you, but I find sex to be fun. It’s like the adult playground where we can let go and have some playful moments. And with that in mind, anything is allowed on this playground – even toys!
People who have vaginas need a little help from their clit. Without the right kind of touch or stroke action on this sensitive area just south of the vagina opening for at least 20 seconds before climaxing, your chances go way down since most women require external pleasure to reach an orgasm.
But, a vibrator can turn your clitoris into a pulsing pleasure-squeeze that will make you orgasm over and over again. Why? Because plenty of people need more power than they or their partner can give them on their own, so this is the perfect solution for getting off than your regular ol’ fingers!
Even if you take out the big O, certain sensations are just not the same without using sex toys. Using them makes sense, so why not?
What sort of sex toys are we referring to?
You know what they say, “the more the merrier”. There’s no shame in using sex toys to spice things up and make your orgasms bigger. But just be careful with which toy you choose as each one has a different use!
Any couple who wants some additional fun can buy any type of pleasure device that their heart desires – but before jumping into anything we need to talk about the basics first so everyone knows how these work.
- Couple-specific toys are a must for when you want to get into the groove with your partner! They allow couples to explore their fantasies together, while they simultaneously work on exploring new ones. A lot of them are designed to be inserted into the vagina during penetration, providing sensation for both partners and sexual organs all at once.
- There are a lot of types to choose from, including external wands and bullets, as well as insertable vibrators and rabbits. Choosing which is best for you will depend on how you intend to use it, but if partnered sex is something you desire, there are a few things to keep in mind. For instance, the size or shape of the toy may be crucial based on whether penetration is expected, in addition to which angle to use while playing with a partner who will hold it comfortably.
- Looks like it’s time for the strap-ons, plugs and dildos. You know what they say: everything’s better with a little penetration!
- Couples seeking new ways of spicing up their sex life should keep BDSM and other sensations play toys on the radar. Think of these as anything that helps you explore your own senses, from bondage tape to blindfolds.
Alright, how about a few pointers?
1. Be sure to have everyone on the same page.
So you’re thinking of using toys? Excellent choice! You’ll have a great time and get lots out of it. But before diving headfirst into the world of sex toys, there are some things to keep in mind. First, make sure that both people involved want to use them; this might involve talking about what’s on your minds or giving each other space for reflection when necessary.
If all is good with communication then go ahead and enjoy! One thing I recommend doing though – if one person wants their partner to play too but they don’t feel like sharing right now – talk about how safe sex practices will be handled beforehand so nobody feels pressured later on down the line.
2. Build up anticipation by shopping for a sex toy together.
Have you ever wanted to try a new sex toy or experiment with something different? Well, there are plenty of ways for couples to do that! Sure, it can be fun and exciting just browsing the selection online—but nothing beats being able to handle them in person. The best way is by going into your local adult store where you have access not only to a wide variety but also knowledgeable sales reps who can answer any questions about what might feel good together. Plus if anything catches your eye, then hey–you get home with it too!
You can buy sex toys online too and have them shipped to your home. This is a pretty discreet way of shopping for these items, especially if you live in an area where they are frowned upon or taboo. You may not know what turns people on the most without asking questions first-hand which could be awkward in public so this might feel more comfortable because it’s private
3. Try using the sex toys all over your body if you want to spice things up.
Toys are meant to be explored. If you’re new to toys in the bedroom, start with a toy that is used on your genitals like a vibrator or dildo and explore all of its features including how it feels on different parts of your body.
Be sensual with your new toy. Use it all over the rest of your body first before you put it on any more sensitive parts like genitals or breasts, and see what that feels like too!
4. Engage in mutual masturbation.
Using toys together does not mean they have to be used on one another. Mutual masturbation allows you to explore yourselves, let your partner know what you like, and have a great time. If your partner isn’t used to masturbate with sex toys yet then now’s the best time as any for him (or her) to start trying some different options out; Fleshlights are great because they feel more realistic than most!
5. Do not be afraid to experiment with edging.
Toys are always good for some fun in the bedroom, but if you want to get creative and tease your partner into submission- try edging. The act of getting close to orgasm without actually reaching it is a surefire way of driving someone crazy while still being able to control the situation at hand. You can do this alone or with a helpmate!
6. Stimulate yourself during penetration to increase your pleasure.
Vaginal orgasms are often difficult for women because they can’t get the clitoral stimulation that is needed. There’s nothing wrong with taking charge of your own pleasure by using a vibrator while receiving penetration from your partner. And changing positions will help anyone find what works best and give them greater control over their orgasmic experience!
7. Engage your five senses.
Sensation play is great because it gives your partner a chance to explore with their senses. A few ways you can go about this are by playing around with temperature, sensory deprivation or exploring sensations and textures through toys like the metal ones which make for some intense touch!
Sex toys are often associated with sensation play, which is a great way to get creative during sex. You can also do sensory deprivation by using blindfolds where the touch of your toy feels more intense!
8. Remote is the way to go.
Some toys, specifically vibrators and vibrating plugs, come with a remote. This can be convenient in many ways – it saves you the trouble of fiddling awkwardly placed buttons during sex or giving your partner more control over their pleasure by allowing them to choose intensity and pattern remotely. You might find this even hotter!
Remote-controlled toys are taking teasing to a whole new level. With apps that control your toy from across town or around the world, you can have them tease their partner before they even get home!
9. Reverse roles where possible.
Toys can facilitate sexy role reversals between you and your partner. You might, for instance, use a strap-on to penetrate someone who usually penetrates you or ask them to perform oral sex on a toy that resembles genitals when they normally provide the pleasure.
Role reversal does not have one specific definition–maybe it means using restraints on someone more dominant than yourself or requesting gentle contact from partners generally seen as aggressive in their sexual relationships with others
One of the many benefits of toys is how much fun they make playing together like never before! Sex toys offer so many opportunities to play differently than we would be able to stop otherwise (like if our physical abilities are limited). This also allows us to explore sexually different kinds of role reversing.
Sex Toys are meant for playing
Sex should be an enjoyable experience. There’s no need to feel guilty about exploring new things with your spouse or partner, and you shouldn’t make assumptions that one way of having sex is better than another just because it’s not what you’re used to.
And the best part? Buying one can lead to talking about your desires with your partner which leads to better communication in bed!
In the end, it’s a win-win situation!