It’s great to have sex, but did you ever try masturbating? Identifying your pleasure points plays a crucial role in having a fulfilling relationship since it will enable you to DIY some incredibly intense orgasms, as well as show your partner exactly what you enjoy.
We discover new ways to enjoy sexual fulfilment with our partners by using sex toys, but also by discovering new ways to enjoy ourselves. Every encounter does not have to be a two-body affair, especially if your vibrator is more likely to deliver an orgasm than your partner.
Having a good orgasm depends on knowing exactly where your buttons are.
So, here are a few techniques and positions that will make your use of vibe (solo or with a partner) extraordinary:
Identify your best time for solo sessions
Some moods, health conditions, periods, fatigue levels, and more can make it difficult to experience orgasms. Unlike women, men have different physiology and can produce erections and orgasms with very easy stimulation.
For example, if you usually masturbate in the evening after working out at the gym, you may want to switch things up and try getting active in the shower in the morning. Keeping a journal may help you determine which factors set the stage for your perfect pleasure after each experience.
Turn yourself on
We sometimes forget to focus on and get swept up in the rush when we rely solely on vibrators (both of which contribute to intensifying the climax). As important as physical stimulation is, arousal has a psychological component as well. Brains are among our biggest sex organs, so discover how your mind makes you feel!
Try imagining your favourite sexual experiences, indulge in fantasies, and read erotica. Your imagination is the only limit to the possibilities.
Let’s start over with the underwear
If you’re new to vibes, try doing it over a barrier like a sheet or underwear. Adding texture to the game can be a lot of fun. It lets you adjust the power without overstimulation of the clit.
Do what your fingers can do
Don’t know where to start? Use your pointer and middle finger to press the clitoris and clitoral hood (the skin just above where the clitoris is visible). Make circular motions with your fingers, playing around with pressure and strokes until you find what feels good. You need to maintain consistency until the perfect climax is reached.
Getting off without a toy might take a few tries: your sensitivity might not return until you’re used to it. Let yourself experience the slow excitement arising from the first arousal and gain a deeper awareness of your pleasure points.
Play with yourself
It is better to back off a bit rather than increase your intensity when you are so close. Put your partner in the position of running your vibrator along your upper thighs, getting close to, though not quite touching, your clitoris.
You can try a new vibration pattern first if you know certain settings drive you crazy. If you let your body develop further, those wonderful feelings will be even more intense.
If you want to tease your partner with remote control, you can do so as well. Vibes can be controlled remotely via an app, without your partner touching you.
Even better, put on the vibrator and let your spouse tease you first.
Pay attention to your labia
A glance at the clitoris will not reveal everything going on, there’s so much more at play than what first meets the eye. The clitoris extends down the labia (the skin flaps surrounding the vulva), allowing you to press your toy on and around that area easily.
Neck it out
Make the most of the erogenous zone on your neck. Lay on your bed, let your vibration run down one side of your neck until you’re done, then switch to the other. It may surprise you how much more pleasure you can get. When you’re feeling good and turned on, gradually move south.
Apply it all over your body
Vibrators don’t just work on clitorises and vaginas. I like to call them clitoral vibes since they can be used anywhere on the outside of your body for an extra boost. If you want to feel more, you can use them between the legs, on the clit, the labia, the balls, between the nipples, on the cheek… wherever you want!
Keep grinding
You can grind into the vibrator by lying face down and putting it underneath you. Keeping your hips moving throughout the game will help you avoid overstimulation. More spots are available to explore when you move more.
Try achieving orgasm with your hands and toy simultaneously
It’s the best of both worlds to use this combo method. Begin with low vibrations and slowly increase the vibrating rate on your own, then go into arousal and clamp the feeling down with your fingers. Mix things up by switching between the two methods in a different order, using a different vibrator tempo, and even using each method for a longer period before switching. You’ll soon be experiencing an orgasm unlike any other!
We’re in this together
If your partner is also present, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t start using it on yourself. To get things moving, press your vibe against your guy’s perineum (the gap between his anus and penis) while making out before moving it over to you. The best thing about masturbating jointly is that you can also have the guy use it on you while you’re getting him off.
Engage in external stimulation and penetration
To stimulate your clitoris and G-spot, use a toy with a curve. Make your life easier by finding a toy that can do both things at once. There are vibrator attachments that stimulate your G-spot as well as vibrating your clitoris.
When you hit two pleasure points simultaneously, you automatically intensify the experience. And being able to achieve that level of pleasure alone can be so rewarding!
Make it wet
You can mount a waterproof vibrator to one of the tub walls, and lean against it. Put your hands on the side of the tub, then rub your clitoris over it.
Provide a better oral sex experience
When a Vulva-owner hits their G-spot, their partner can use their mouth to touch their Clitoris while they use an internal vibrator. You can bend vibes in just the right way, to avoid your partner’s face as much as possible.
Penis owners might also appreciate tapping their shafts or perineum with a vibrator and getting blown over by their partners.
A New way to doggy
Place your clitoral vibrator underneath your abdomen while lying flat on your stomach. He can then penetrate you from behind. You don’t need to do much, so lay back and let the ride take you.
Play around with rimming
Feel the tingly sensation of a vibrating device around the rim of your or your partner’s anus with a vibrating device. Also, it’s a good way to ease yourself into penetration before moving on to anal play.
Lift Yourself Up
If you’re lying in bed, prop up with a few pillows under the butt. Try running your vibe along with your nipples while his tongue is on you.
Try anal penetration
Using a bum-safe toy (ideally with a larger base to prevent slipping) and a lot of lubricant, anal penetration and vibrations can be extremely satisfying, particularly for men with prostates.
A little BDSM might help.
Let him use the vibrator on you however he wants, with your guy loosely tying you up. Being out of control is exhilarating.
Indulge in double penetration
It’s hard to beat vibrators if you love penetration. To feel truly filled-up, mix vaginal and anal penetrations. Double penetration can be performed both solos and with a partner. Some people use two vibrators, others use a vibrator and a finger.
Get a Couple’s Vibe
If you want to stimulate both of your genital areas simultaneously, consider investing in a couple’s vibe, such as a penis ring that has a bullet vibrator. The most convenient way to ensure you and your mate are both able to enjoy this sensation hands-free is with couples-oriented penis rings.
Slow down the pace
It may be better to ease off your toys gradually rather than cutting them off all at once.
If you are accustomed to an electric vibrator, perhaps you would like to try a battery-powered model (less intense), set to its smallest speed. You’ll likely notice that after a few sessions you’re more sensitive at these lower levels, and you’re less likely to blast away to the highest level. No matter what speed the throttle is set to or what pulsing pattern you like, you’ll still experience overwhelming ecstasy.
Bottom Line
Get a taste of personal intimacy, experience different pleasures, and even have a go at joint masturbation.
It’s all about intimacy, bonding, and connecting (which is also what your brain would like for you to see). Take advantage of this period to expand your sexual repertoire and polish up your sensual skills. By using your vibrators, you can learn your tipping point, connect with your body, and discover what makes you feel aroused.
