Everyone defines kink differently, and kink enthusiasts would most likely agree that there is no one way to describe it. Although kink can mean everything from a good spanking to restricted play, couple-friendly kinky sex toys help bring fantasies to life in an environment that is safe, fun, and still completely incredible.
There is nothing wrong with couples unsure of where to begin on the kink path, especially if they’re looking to try something new. Toys like restraint kits can be fun for people across the spectrum, while others, like dildo gags that lock into place, may take a little more strength to master and are likely best for seasoned users.
Whenever you want to explore your kinks, you should always communicate with each other first. As couples, this is essential, since it allows you to establish boundaries, get to know each other better, and discuss your mutual wants and needs openly. As soon as that is established, the possibilities for kinky fun are truly unlimited, and it can be helped along with sex toys.
Here’s what you need to know before you use any kinky sex toys
BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism, is when the participants in a given sex act, also called “scenes”, are aware of the risks involved and will do their best to minimize those risks.
Whatever your experience or level of commitment to the BDSM scene, apply these rules to your use of kinky sex toys.
In this guide, you will learn how to identify, use, and play with a variety of fun kinky toys. But do not expect it to be your only source of information on safe and effective use.
1. Blindfolds
There may just be no sexier thing than bringing a blindfold into the bedroom. It might just be the answer to your sex woes if you want to spice up your sex life or develop a deeper sense of intimacy.
It is incredible how a blindfold can make a sensual experience even more memorable because it restricts one sense, which can mean that others are more prominent. Even a simple touch–a simple stroke across the back of your thighs, for example–can go from ordinary to electric in a flash without warning. You will feel, smell, taste, and smell much more intensely when you cannot see anything.
It takes trust and a lot of communication to use blindfolds. It’s wise to refrain from blindfold play if you do not feel trust and can’t communicate effectively with someone.
2. Bondage hoods
Bondage hoods also called bondage masks, are fetish accessories worn over a submissive’s head. Besides sexual pleasure, hooded and masking activities offer a variety of other pleasures that go beyond mere sexual satisfaction. Their primary focus is on sensory deprivation plays, which involve covering the mouth, ears, eyes, or nose. This makes things more satisfying for dominants since the submissive partner depended on how the stimuli were presented to them.
3. Collars
When playing BDSM, submissive partners can sometimes wear collars as restraints. Even dominants wear them sometimes. “Collared” describes submissive partners who wear collars frequently.
BDSM collars are available from nearly any material, including rubber and metal, but black leather is the most common. Collars with D-rings or O-rings make attaching a leash easy. There are also plain and decorated collars.
4. Chokers
Chokers create the illusion of a longer neck. You can look at it as a fashion trend or a sexual thing.
Ultimately, people must admit that choker necklaces have been sexualized significantly due to their physical association to specific elements of the female form, just like stilettos, figure-hugging clothes, dresses, or tights do.
The visual experience and the men’s sexual desires often lead men to see these things as sexual.
5. Ball gags
The ball gags are characterized by a ball placed inside the mouth (typically behind the teeth). There is a strap around the head that secures them.
Speech is rendered incomprehensible, but the drooling and weird facial expressions it causes often serve as an effective humiliation method.
Whatever the size or shape, make sure the material you choose will not cause damage to your teeth, such as silicone, and one that can be sterilised entirely.
However, with a gag, you could choke or asphyxiate, so couples need to come up with safe signals before playing. It is never a good idea to leave any person wearing a gag alone.
6. Nipple clamps
Depending on how tight and where you apply it, the nipple clamp will give you a variety of sensations. When pulled or twisted, they produce an intense surge of sensation that can be incredibly pleasurable, but once removed, they can cause a deeply satisfying feeling.
If the clamps are removed, blood will flow toward the nipple, creating an intense pain and tingling sensation.
Particularly in women, the nipples are viewed as an erogenous area since the area is extremely sensitive. Nipple clamps are popular with some people since the pain they cause is perceived as stimulating sexually.
7. Floggers
During BDSM scenes, floggers are usually used to whip or flog consenting partners. Its chief feature is its sturdy handle attached to numerous tails. The tails can be made from a variety of materials, such as leather, rubber, and horsehair.
If a flogger has more tails, the heavier, more thud, and more intense it feels when used against your body.
Its sensation will be more stingy if there are fewer tails.
With BDSM, there is no intention of harming, only to maximize sensation, and the sexual experience.
8. Paddles
Sex toys, such as paddles, usually have a handle and two flat surfaces made of wood or leather. With a paddle, the receiver can receive light or heavy spanking on the bottom as part of BDSM or bondage play. The impact of this is quite powerful.
Pain is a way in which BDSM enhances our sensory experience.
One can safely and gently spank the butt, thighs, upper back, and even the breasts. Conversely, striking near the kidney area, the lower back, the neck, the face, or the joints must be avoided since these areas are the most prone to injury.
9. Whips
Whips are thin, long leather sex toys that provide pain and pleasure to sex partners. People often use painful sexual toys, such as whips, to make their sexual experience more intense, since pain causes the release of endorphins.
Learning how to whip someone requires a great deal of practice and technique, which is why whips are the hardest toy to master.
Using the whip improperly could result in deep lacerations if the dominant partner does not know how to use it properly. A safe word and utmost respect are mandatory in sexual play where the pain is involved.
10. Rope
If the sensation of being held by someone is hot, think of all the advantages of having them provide that sensation hands-free. That’s what restraints are all about.
In addition to being time-consuming and visually appealing, rope bondage can be challenging. There can be a suspension involved. There are many ways to accompany it, ranging from intimate sex to impressive impacts.
Your body can also be repositioned, allowing you to feel things differently. It’s also a matter of dominance and submission.
11. Bondage tape
In BDSM and erotically charged bondage scenes, bondage tape is often used as a securing device. In contrast to traditional adhesive tapes, Bondage tape doesn’t stick to anything except itself. Due to its smooth texture, it will be more comfortable and safer for the person wearing it, since it won’t adhere to their skin.
Also, it leaves fewer marks than other means of restraint, including ropes, handcuffs, and other bondage gear.
If you plan to explore tape play, be very careful around candles. When heated, some adhesives can become so sticky that they will cause the skin to tear when removed.
12. Chastity belts
Chastity belts are items of clothing that lock in place to prevent masturbation or sexual contact. This device has traditionally been used to protect the virtue of women or protect them from rape, but today, it is used by both men and women, most notably by BDSM.
In essence, chastity belts lock your bits so that you can’t touch them or go to the bathroom until the keyholder allows you to do so.
Due to their locked-up nature, chastity belts are a powerful tool for BDSM power play.
Chastity belts can also provide physical stimulation. Several of them come with built-in butt plugs, vaginal plugs, or vibrating cock rings.
13. Chastity cages
Unlike chastity belts, chastity cages only cover the genital region. This tool is sometimes referred to as a “penis cage” or a “cock cage” since it is primarily intended to be used by penis owners.
Using cock cages, it is constantly being reinforced that your cock is the property of your Dominant. Ownership has reached a whole new level.
Chastity cages are devices used to gratify the chastity and orgasm fantasies of people with a fetish for them. As they restrict a man’s ability to obtain an erection, they control his ability to masturbate and have sex or have an orgasm.
Here’s the bottom line
Kink toys and bondage toys are great tools for anyone to have in their sexual arsenal, as long as everyone involved understands their risks and consents.
The appeal of these genres is not always as wide as that of vibes. Keeping your pain-as-a-form-of-pleasure adventure is fine if you’re happy with it!
